From Chaos To Connection
A 9-week online programme to support you to move beyond daily chaos and overwhelm and (finally) bring about the peaceful vision of family life you long for.

Create deep and lasting connection built on a foundation of trust and mutual respect with your children

Speak in a way that your children are more able to hear and understand you

Create more inner peace allowing you to be more present, calm and regulated with your children

Manage challenging behavior and conflict using methods that are aligned with your love for peace and cooperation.

Self-Study Course
- Instant access to the course
- Course dripped in weekly modules to pace your learning.
- Weekly emails to structure, motivate and encourage your learning.
- Ideal for flexible schedules and self-motivated learners.
Offered on a Gift economy basis.
(Initial deposit of $90 USD (150 NZD), and then pay what you are willing and able at the end).

Community Cohort
- Access to scheduled live Zoom calls for real-time support.
- Interactive experience with a small group of peers.
- Ideal for those seeking accountability, support, community, and direct interaction with Sally and Jorinde.
- Next intake 16 March 2025. Places are limited.
Offered on a Gift economy basis.
(Initial deposit of $150 USD (270 NZD), and then pay what you are willing and able at the end).

Individual Accompaniment
- Gain instant access to all course materials.
- 6 fortnightly individual zoom calls with Sally or Jorinde for individualised support and coaching.
- Perfect for those seeking accountability, in-depth learning, and meaningful reflection.
Places limited, please contact us to discuss this option.
Dear Fellow Parents,
If you are sitting down to read this, we (Jorinde and Sally) guessing that your daily life with children often feels chaotic and exhausting. You are probably trying so hard to make all the pieces work, and to bring about the caring, peaceful life that you want so much for your children. But when you are so worn down, it can feel impossible. How can you possibly have the energy to pull your whole family up when you have nothing left in your tank?
You Are Not Imagining It
Firstly, we'd like to offer you some reassurance: it’s not your imagination (…modern parenting really IS that hard, for complex reasons that we explore in detail in our blog) and it's not your fault, we were never supposed to be able to do it all alone!
There Is Hope
Secondly, we would like to offer you some hope: From our own experience, and working with many other caring but exhausted parents, we've learned that transforming family life is a journey. While it may take time and effort, it's entirely achievable.
With the right support, you don’t have to navigate this path alone. We invite you to join us and take this journey together towards a more peaceful and fulfilling family life.

“Everyday I am trying so damn hard, but I just can’t make it work!”
Mother of 2, Auckland
Why is Modern Parenting So Damn Hard?
These were the tearful words of a mother of two who came to us at the very end of her capacity to cope alone. She is a strong and capable woman, deeply committed to loving and peaceful parenting—but the challenges in her family had exceeded her limits.
She was struggling each day with school refusal, behavior challenges, her daughter's recent autism diagnosis, and a black-hole-sized longing for rest and support. She was exhausted, alone, and desperate to find a way forward.
Does This Sound Familiar?
Perhaps, like this mother, you started your parenting journey with high hopes and beautiful dreams. You read all the books, joined every Facebook group, and lovingly chose an organic bamboo sling—imagining joy-filled years of warmth, laughter, and playdough-scented togetherness with your children.
Instead, to your dismay, reality looks very different.
You find yourself exhausted and alone… Your days feel far from the ideal of sweet, rosy-faced connection around the dinner table. Instead, they are filled with:
- Bitter shouting matches
- Hours of numbing screens
- Piles of unfolded laundry
- Outraged tantrums and slammed doors
- Shouted (but unheard) pleas to "just get in the damned car, right now!"
You Are Not Alone
The more we hear these stories, the more we see that this is not just your story, or mine, or hers—it is OUR story.
This is the story of a generation of parents struggling in chaos and confusion, battling each day to give our children the love and care we sense they need—all while navigating an unprecedentedly challenging historical moment.
An Alternative Vision for Your Family
If you’re still reading, it’s probably because you sense—deep in your bones—that this is not the only way life could be.
You may have always suspected that your family life could be sweeter, lighter, and more joyful—and you’ve likely been battling for some time now to bring this vision to life for yourself and your children.
Perhaps You Long for a Family Life Where You Can:- Be present and engaged with your children.
- Find rest and refreshment when you need it, knowing that your needs matter too.
- Feel confident and assured in your parenting, able to hold the reins loosely.
- Stay clear and focused on your vision—no longer confused by every new parenting trend.
- Create an easy, loving connection with your child, built on trust, mutual respect, and love.
- Truly hear your child’s deepest fears and sadness about the world—offering insight, wisdom, and comfort as a safe harbor and trusted guide.
- Drink in warm, sweet moments of family togetherness—experiencing the real world side by side.
This alternative vision is possible. You don’t have to do it alone.

A Reliable Path to Family Peace
If the challenges we face as parents are so global, how on earth are we supposed to fix them?
What kind of superhuman effort might be required?
You may be imagining that creating a peaceful, connected family life demands some kind of unattainable enlightened perfection something beyond your current realm of possibility.
No Magic Fix But a Clear Path
It’s true, there is no quick fix for parenting challenges. No amount of "naughty step" punishments or reward charts on the fridge will create the deep peace and connection you yearn for.
The journey from chaos to connection isn’t always easy, and it can’t be rushed.
But it is reassuringly straightforward.
What We’ve Learned After Years of Working with Parents:
1. The Root of Our Parenting Crisis Is Disconnection.
We are living through what may be the greatest fragmentation of connection human beings have ever known.
- We are profoundly detached from one another, from our broader communities, from the natural world, and even from our own inner selves.
- In this painful and largely unacknowledged reality, we peace-loving parents devote ourselves tirelessly to caring for our children.
- But we quickly reach the edge of our capacity, stumbling anxious and exhausted through each day.
2. The Only Real Solution Is Reconnection.
The way forward isn’t through stricter rules, better discipline strategies, or trying harder.
The prescription for a crisis of connection is a gentle, conscious, and determined effort to reconnect with ourselves, our children, our communities, and the natural world.
There may not be a quick way to rebuild connection, but there is a reliable way.
By taking small, intentional steps, we can interrupt the downward cycle of stress and disconnection and begin to create new, life-giving patterns that restore connection and rebuild family peace.
Step 1: Reconnect with Yourself
Before you can cultivate deeper connection with your child, you must first turn inward.
Increasing your capacity to parent with presence and compassion starts with learning to:
- Notice what’s happening inside you moment to moment.
- Identify your own needs even when they feel buried beneath daily demands.
- Care for yourself even when there aren’t enough hours in the day.
What This Requires:
✔ Interrupting habitual patterns of thinking and reacting, building awareness of your feelings and needs.
✔ Gently rewiring your nervous system to cultivate self-regulation in moments of stress.
✔ Creating daily habits that support regulation, presence, and self-compassion.
A Little Space Is Enough
As you strengthen your ability to self-connect, you slowly expand your capacity, creating just a little more space in your cup.
And a little space is enough.
This is the wisp of oxygen that allows the spark of connection to ignite, leading to small, noticeable shifts and sometimes even profound transformations in your family life.

Step 2: Reconnect with Your Children
Despite the myths of modern parenting, true influence over our children doesn’t come from fear, rewards, or punishment; it comes from the magical, evolutionary power of connection.
When a child feels deeply attached to you, they will willingly follow your guidance out of trust, love, and belonging, not coercion.
But in a world that does not prioritize human connection, this bond can be strained. When that happens, family life, peace, and well-being suffer, for both parent and child.
Connection is Built in the Small Moments
Think of connection like a strong yet flexible rope, woven from thousands of delicate threads. These threads are not grand gestures or picture-perfect moments, but the simple, daily interactions that shape your relationship.
✔ A warm glance across the breakfast table.
✔ A reassuring touch during a meltdown.
✔ A deep breath before responding to a difficult moment.
✔ A quiet bedtime chat, free of pressure or correction.
You Already Have Everything You Need
Connection isn’t something new to learn, it is something ancient to rekindle.
As humans, we are wired for deep connection; our brains, bodies, and nervous systems are designed for it.
When we redirect the energy we currently spend on power struggles, guilt, and frustration into reliable, consistent, and unconditional connection, we create a family life rooted in trust, ease, and cooperation.
Step 3: Learn Peaceful Ways To Manage Conflict
Breaking the Cycle of Blame and Reactivity
For many of us, conflict and challenging behavior feel like a constant pebble in our parenting shoes. When tension arises, we often fall into habitual patterns of blame, judgment, and reactivity, leaving us feeling stuck and disconnected.
We want to bring back understanding, connection, and solutions that care for everyone’s needs, but we don’t always know how.
The Skills of Peaceful Conflict Resolution
Managing behavior challenges in a peaceful way takes conscious, deliberate attention. It involves learning:
✔ The art of honest expression: sharing your feelings and needs without blame.
✔ The skills of dialogue and empathy: listening in a way that fosters trust.
✔ How to make clear, doable requests: so your words are more likely to be heard.
Turning Conflict into Connection
There is no magic bullet to make conflict disappear, but there is a way to handle it without creating resentment or rebellion.
The magical part? Once you learn peaceful conflict resolution, these difficult moments become opportunities for deeper connection with your child.
Your family life can feel easier, lighter, and more harmonious, even in the face of everyday struggles.

What the program contains

Week 1: Welcome
In our first week, we will explore what you need in order to get the most out of the programme, identify your vision for your family and specific goals and intentions for our time together.

Week 2: Restoring Connection
We explore the importance of the relationship we have with our children as a container for their growth and development, and the impact on them (and us) when there are challenges with connection.

Week 3: Understanding the lens through which you see the world
Learn how our beliefs/judgments about the world create a lens through which we understand and interpret our child, explore two fundamentally different ways we can experience the world.

Week 4: Feelings, Self Regulation and Co-regulation
How to use your feelings, sensations and emotions to understand your needs, express yourself, to self-regulate when you are triggered and to support your children to regulate themselves.

Week 5: How to Observe Without Judgement
We will explore the importance of separating your observations of your child from your evaluations, the role of evaluations in conflict and how clear observations can support peace.

Week 6: Empathy
We will look at the importance of empathy to your children’s development and learn some skills for offering empathy and understanding to your children even in the most challenging moments.

Week 7: Requests - From Connection to Manifestation
We will practise making clear, doable requests that capture your deepest needs and longings and that are more likely to be heard by your children.

Week 8: Integration and Roadmap
In our final week, we’ll focus on integrating everything you’ve learned, reflecting on your progress, and celebrating your achievements. You will leave with a toolkit of strategies, a renewed vision for your family, and a clear roadmap to guide you forward on this journey.

Sam, Invercargill
"Thank you ever so much Jorinde and Sally. You make such a wonderful team, and I'm so grateful to you both for introducing me to this way of parenting. It really is such a life changing gift. You are doing such valuable work which the world needs so much more of! Keep it up beautiful people!"
How the course works

Online Content
Each week you will be guided through a series of pre-recorded lessons relating to our topic for the week (around 90 minutes per week). You can watch these in your own time and from the comfort of your home (...think while lying waiting for children to sleep, while waiting for the pasta to boil, or even while in the bath! :)

Weekly Email
Each week, you will receive an email from us outlining the main focus for your week, your practice focus, and pointing you to all of the resources you need to support your journey. This gives you a central place to check in each week to see what is going on and where we are up to.

Downloadable Exercises and Summaries
To support real and lasting change in your life, our video lessons include a range of exercises to support you to integrate material into your daily life, including worksheets, journalling processes and meditations. We will also send you written exercises you can do between sessions (e.g. daily journalling exercises).
Our 100% Risk-Free Guarantee
We believe this program can transform your family life. We're so confident that if you commit to the process, you'll see incredible results. That's why we're offering a risk-free guarantee (Self-Study programme only)
Here’s How It Works:
- Test Drive the First Two Modules – Dive into the content and start making progress.
- Not Feeling the Value? – If, within 14 days of purchase, you don’t feel the course has delivered value, simply email us.
- Get a Full Refund – Just send us your completed journal, and we'll refund you in full—no questions asked.
You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain.


Katie, mother of 5
"Sally and Jorinde have a special way about them. They have a magical ability to make you feel so comfortable that it enables you to break through the discomforts of sharing but this in turn creates such growth for deep reflection, growth and change within self, relationships and family life."
Who is this program designed for?
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Mother of one, navigating co-parenting, Auckland
“I deeply appreciated everything about the course. It has met a number of needs for me (and my son): for connection, for self-acceptance, for discovery, for making sense of life, for learning, for meaning...I have learnt so much about myself and my son and feel so enthused to imagine what that means for us/ our life. I feel a lot of relief to have come across the people and tools who are able to support my learning journey."

Self-Study Course
- Instant access to the course (start today!)
- Course dripped in weekly modules to pace your learning.
- Weekly emails to structure, motivate and encourage your learning.
- Ideal for flexible schedules and self-motivated learners.
Offered on a Gift Economy basis
(Initial deposit of $150 NZD, and then pay what you are willing and able at the end).

Community Cohort
- Access to weekly live group zoom calls for practice and support.
- Interactive homegroup experience with a small group of peers.
- Ideal for those seeking accountability, support, community, and direct interaction with Sally and Jorinde.
- Next intake March 2025. Places are limited.
Offered on a Gift Economy basis
(Initial deposit of $270 NZD, and then pay what you are willing and able at the end).

Individual Accompaniment
- Gain instant access to all course materials
- 6 bi-weekly live Zoom calls with Sally or Jorinde for real-time support.
- Perfect for those seeking accountability, in-depth learning, and meaningful reflection.

Auckland-based mother of 1
“I would like to offer my gratitude for the gifts you offered me through your offering of the connection with children course last year. It has given so much depth and connection and empathy to all of my relationships. I am FEELing so much more, am much more able to recognise my needs and as well those of my son. And I am becoming much more able to return to dialogue.
My life is so much more wonderful. ”
The Community Cohort Programme
One of the ways this programmes supports real, lasting progress is by offering the motivational power and support of a community of like minded parents who will travel through the programme with you. Additional to the general course content offered in the Self-Paced Program, you will get the benefits of:

Home groups
For your time in the program, you will be placed in a home group with 3-6 others. Each week you will have a chance to meet together on zoom, share any celebrations or challenges, ask questions, receive empathy, and practice skills together. These will be your core go-to people to support you for the duration of the course, and perhaps beyond.

Live Mentoring Sessions
Each week, we will all come together for our online community live group coaching. This is a chance for you to practice the skills covered in the lessons, ask your questions, watch live demonstrations, listen to other people’s questions and receive direct support, mentoring and coaching from Sally and or Jorinde.

Access to a Community chat Group
You will have access to a private, monitored Watts app group. This is a supportive, non-judgemental space where you can share any experiences, celebrations or challenges that come up during our time together and ask any questions you have.
Next Community Cohort: March 2025
📅 8 Live Group Calls with Jorinde and/or Sally
⚡ Spots are limited— check your time zone and reserve below:

Saturdays, 22 March – 24 May (one-week integration break on 19 April)

Tuesdays, 18 March – 20 May (one-week integration break on 15 April)

Tuesdays, 18 March – 20 May (one-week integration break on 15 April)
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Still Unsure? Have Questions?
We get it—making a choice that fits you is important. If you have any concerns or need more information before taking the next step, we're here to help!
📩 Email us at peacetalksnz@gmail.com, or Book a free 15 min exploration session with us to see how we can help.