Tending the Unseen: A Grief Circle for Parents
A warm online space for parents to explore together the unspoken sorrow of parenting – and being parented – in community
A gentle time to pause, feel, and be held in community.
When: 6:00 PM – 7:30 PM
Where:Â Online via zoom
Contribution: This event is offered within a gift economy model. You're invited to contribute an amount that feels right for you - guided by your resources, the value you receive, and your desire to support this work. (Suggested range: $30–$50 NZD)
Have you ever thought…
“Wait… what just came out of my mouth sounded just like my mother.”
“I swore I’d never do that to my child.”
“This isn’t how I want to parent, but I don’t manage to do it differently.”
You're not alone.
Maybe you meant to respond with love…
But something took over. An old script. A familiar tone. And after, guilt or shame moves in like fog.
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As parents, we carry invisible grief
Not the kind of grief for lost loved ones -
but for:
The ways we were parented
The patterns we’ve repeated
The moments we missed
The versions of ourselves we hoped to be
The transitions we’re moving through
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Many of us were never taught how to feel
We were shaped by a culture that says:
“Boys don’t cry.”
“Don’t be so sensitive.”
“Put on a happy face.”
“You’re fine.”
“Get over it.”
“Be strong.”
The message was clear: certain feelings are acceptable and others are wrong.
In our modern culture, we’ve been taught to suppress unpleasant emotions – to believe that sadness is weakness, that anger is dangerous, and that grief is something to “get over.”
So we learned to hide. To toughen up.
To swallow our tears, tighten our jaw, smile through discomfort.
And now, as parents, we can feel overwhelmed by emotions that were never allowed safe passage through our own nervous systems.
We may snap, go numb, or spiral into guilt... not because we’re broken, but because we were never shown how to stay soft and open in the face of pain.Â
Somewhere along the way, we learned:
'Pleasant emotions are good. Unpleasant emotions are bad. Fix them, fast.'
But this conditioning comes at a cost – the cost of our aliveness, our connection, and our wholeness.
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Come and be held in community
Tend the unseen within you
 A safe space where your story is welcome,
where all your feelings are honoured,
and where healing can gently unfold.

A Space to Reflect

Soften, Feel, And Be Heard
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A Nourishing Setting
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Be Welcomed As You Are
Our Innate Need To Grieve
While we live in a culture that rushes us past sorrow and pain, as humans, we have an innate need for grief – to be with ourselves and others as we move through painful emotions. Crying helps flush stress hormones and other toxins from the body, and researchers have found that it stimulates the release of oxytocin and endorphins – the body’s natural feel-good chemicals that ease both physical and emotional pain.
Grief, when allowed to flow, reconnects us to our bodies, our values and longings, to our full aliveness and our children.
Grief was never meant to be carried in isolation. When we are able to express our feelings fully, while being gently held and witnessed by others, we often find – paradoxically – that it brings us closer to joy, and the fullness of life.
Grief, fully expressed and witnessed, is a portal to love.
As humans, we are wired to grieve – and we’re meant to do it together.
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“Grief has always been communal, always been shared and consequently has traditionally been regarded as a sacred process. Too often in modern times our grief becomes private, carrying an invisible mantle of shame forcing our sorrow underground, hidden from the eyes that would offer healing. We must restore the conversation we need to have concerning the place of grief in our lives. Each of us must undertake an apprenticeship with loss.” - Francis Weller, Psychotherapist, Author, Soul Activist...

Katie, mother of 5
"Sally and Jorinde have a special way about them. They have a magical ability to make you feel so comfortable that it enables you to break through the discomforts of sharing but this in turn creates such growth for deep reflection, growth and change within self, relationships and family life."
A gentle time to pause, feel, and be held in community.
When: 6:00 PM – 7:30 PM
Where:Â Online via zoom
Contribution: This event is offered within a gift economy model. You're invited to contribute an amount that feels right for you - guided by your resources, the value you receive, and your desire to support this work. (Suggested range: $30–$50 NZD)
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