Tending the Unseen: A Grief Workshop for Parents

A gentle, supportive grief workshop for parents. Explore the unspoken sorrow of how you’ve parented – and been parented – in community: a space for healing, compassion, and growth.

A gentle day to pause, feel, and be held in community.

Join us for a one-day workshop where we explore the unspoken grief of parenting and being parented - in a warm, supportive space surrounded by nature.

When: 10:00 AM – 4:00 PM
Where: Osborne (25 minutes north of Dunedin)
Includes: Nourishing lunch & afternoon tea
Setting: A beautiful round indoor space with a fire to keep us warm, nestled in native bush
Contribution: This event is offered within a gift economy model. You're invited to contribute an amount that feels right for you - guided by your resources, the value you receive, and your desire to support this work. (Suggested range: $65–$300, including $15 for lunch)

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Have you ever thought…

“Wait… what just came out of my mouth sounded just like my mother.”
“I swore I’d never do that to my child.”
“This isn’t how I want to parent, but I don’t manage to do it differently.”

You're not alone.

Maybe you meant to respond with love…
But something took over. An old script. A familiar tone. And after, guilt or shame moves in like fog.

 

As parents, we carry invisible grief

Not the kind of grief for lost loved ones -
but for:

The ways we were parented

The patterns we’ve repeated

The moments we missed

The versions of ourselves we hoped to be

The transitions we’re moving through

 

Many of us were never taught how to feel

We were shaped by a culture that says:

“Boys don’t cry.”
“Don’t be so sensitive.”
“Put on a happy face.”
“You’re fine.”
“Get over it.”
“Be strong.”

The message was clear: certain feelings are acceptable and others are wrong.

In our modern culture, we’ve been taught to suppress unpleasant emotions – to believe that sadness is weakness, that anger is dangerous, and that grief is something to “get over.”

So we learned to hide. To toughen up.
To swallow our tears, tighten our jaw, smile through discomfort.

And now, as parents, we can feel overwhelmed by emotions that were never allowed safe passage through our own nervous systems.

We may snap, go numb, or spiral into guilt... not because we’re broken, but because we were never shown how to stay soft and open in the face of pain. 

Somewhere along the way, we learned:
'Pleasant emotions are good. Unpleasant emotions are bad. Fix them, fast.'
But this conditioning comes at a cost – the cost of our aliveness, our connection, and our wholeness.

 

Come and be held in community

Tend the unseen within you

 A safe space where your story is welcome,
where all your feelings are honoured,
and where healing can gently unfold.

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A Space to Reflect

Soften, Feel, And Be Heard

 

A Nourishing Setting

 

Be Welcomed As You Are

Our Innate Need To Grieve

While we live in a culture that rushes us past sorrow and pain, as humans, we have an innate need for grief – to be with ourselves and others as we move through painful emotions. Crying helps flush stress hormones and other toxins from the body, and researchers have found that it stimulates the release of oxytocin and endorphins – the body’s natural feel-good chemicals that ease both physical and emotional pain.

Grief, when allowed to flow, reconnects us to our bodies, our values and longings, to our full aliveness and our children.

Grief was never meant to be carried in isolation. When we are able to express our feelings fully, while being gently held and witnessed by others, we often find – paradoxically – that it brings us closer to joy, and the fullness of life.

Grief, fully expressed and witnessed, is a portal to love.

As humans, we are wired to grieve – and we’re meant to do it together.

 

“Grief has always been communal, always been shared and consequently has traditionally been regarded as a sacred process. Too often in modern times our grief becomes private, carrying an invisible mantle of shame forcing our sorrow underground, hidden from the eyes that would offer healing. We must restore the conversation we need to have concerning the place of grief in our lives. Each of us must undertake an apprenticeship with loss.” - Francis Weller, Psychotherapist, Author, Soul Activist...

Together, We’ll Explore:

  • How emotional suppression impacts your day-to-day reactions

  • Gentle ways to reconnect with the wisdom inside your feelings

  • The value of slowing down, reflection, and coming together in what's real

  • Why grief is vital to parenting and personal wholeness

Practical Details

Time: 10:00 AM – 4:00 PM
Includes: Nourishing vegan lunch and afternoon tea

Contribution: This event is offered within a gift economy model (see more below). You're invited to contribute an amount that feels right for you, guided by your resources, the value you receive, and your desire to support this work. (Suggested range: $50–$300, including $15 for lunch)
Location: Osborne  – a peaceful setting just 25 minutes north of Dunedin

We’ll gather in a beautiful, round indoor space nestled in nature, with a fire to keep us warm. Surrounded by native bush and birdsong, it’s a space that invites softness, presence, and connection.

Lisa Lawson, mother and teacher

“I want to thank you for inviting us into this magical space to take time for something that is really buried deep within us and usually doesn’t really surface. I really enjoyed sharing my story and hearing other people share theirs, and I enjoyed being vulnerable around others. I also want to thank you for the amazing food and the beautiful setup. It was really helpful to feel at home immediately and welcome!

I would really love to repeat the session and meet again in a couple of months and see what it has done to us. I don’t know if you would be willing to do something like that again, I would definitely be up for that!”

A gentle day to pause, feel, and be held in community.

Join us for a one-day workshop where we explore the unspoken grief of parenting and being parented - in a warm, supportive space surrounded by nature.

When: 10:00 AM – 4:00 PM
Where: Osborne (25 minutes north of Dunedin)
Includes: Nourishing lunch & afternoon tea
Setting: A beautiful round indoor space with a fire to keep us warm, nestled in native bush
Contribution: This event is offered within a gift economy model. You're invited to contribute an amount that feels right for you - guided by your resources, the value you receive, and your desire to support this work. (Suggested range: $50–$300, including $15 for lunch)

Register Your Interest

When you register your interest, you’ll be the first to hear when registrations open. This does not commit you to enrolment, it simply keeps you in the loop and supports us in sensing how many people are drawn to this work.

Your Facilitator: Jorinde Rapsey

Hi, my name is Jorinde. Together with my friend Sally Prebble, I co-founded Peace Talks to support parents who are longing for more connection, ease, and authenticity in their relationships - especially in the often chaotic and tender world of family life.

Originally from the Netherlands, I now live north of Dunedin with my partner and our two children. Nothing has challenged or supported my growth more than parenting - raw, real, and constantly inviting me to stretch and soften.

I’m a Nonviolent Communication (NVC) facilitator currently on the certification path with the Center for Nonviolent Communication.

Since discovering NVC in 2015, I’ve been especially drawn to the power of presence and to the healing that becomes possible when our grief is welcomed instead of pushed away. I believe we were never meant to carry our pain alone - and that being witnessed with our grief in a supportive community is one of the most profound forms of medicine we have.

I absolutely love sharing the powerful tools that NVC has offered to support me as a parent and human. I feel incredibly privileged and grateful to have found meaning in sharing this work with others. 

I look forward to meeting you and walking alongside you in this tender, powerful work.

Kristina Bulow, mother grandmother and teacher

The workshop Tending the Unseen was a beautiful honoring of parenthood and an acknowledgement of the unseen grief we carry into our parenting. Jorinde led us through each section of the day in a way that encouraged us to open up, tell our stories, and share our joys and grief in a safe and nurturing environment. Tears flowed freely, and so did laughter. The recognition of our personal grief was palpable, and the stories we shared revealed many common threads. I felt deeply comforted by this.

Since the workshop, I’ve been noticing my responses to my adult children and the way they parent their children. I’m beginning to recognize patterns that may have stemmed from my own parenting style (heaven forbid!) and my unresolved grief. I’ve also been talking openly with them about the workshop and the importance of conscious parenting.

I really loved Jorinde’s style. She was gentle, and the effects of each component were profound. Jorinde truly walks the talk, and I felt especially safe sharing my vulnerabilities.

I would recommend this workshop to anyone embarking on the parenthood journey. Going into this remarkable life change with our eyes open to what we carry internally is truly a blessing. Acknowledgement equals change.

 

Unsure? Have Questions?

Making a choice that fits you is important. If you have any concerns or need more information before you decide to join, feel free to reach out! 

📩 Email us at connect@peacetalks.nz, or Book a free 20 min exploration session with Jorinde: here